The butterfly is a sex position where the partner with a vagina lies on their back at the edge of the bed or other surface, while the partner with a penis stands or kneels in front and between the partner’s legs. The standing partner does most of the work. The partner lying down can move their legs for comfort and stimulation.
Known as the “blossoming position” in the ancient text Kama Sutra, this position is considered very pleasurable because of deep penetration. Also, the clitoris can be manually stimulated in this position.
How Does the Butterfly Sex Position Work?
In the butterfly sex position, the receiving partner lies down, while the partner with a penis stands in front so that the female partner's pelvis is a few inches above the male partner’s pelvis.
What Are the Variations of the Butterfly Position?
The butterfly is a very easy and versatile sex position that is comfortable for both partners. Many similar positions with slight differences are known by different names. Partners can try slight adjustments to see which options are most enjoyable for both. Below are several variations to this popular position:
Anvil. The standing person leans forward into their partner’s legs, pushing the legs back toward the head.
Legs on one shoulder. The partner who is lying down rests both legs on one shoulder of the person who is standing. This creates a tighter fit for penetration.
Crisscross. This position involves crossing the legs and placing the left ankle on the left shoulder of the standing partner and the right ankle on the right shoulder. The crisscross creates a smaller insertion point for the penis.
Right angle. With the legs pointed directly at the ceiling, the partner lying down creates a 90-degree angle with their body.
Praying mantis. While the partner with a penis is on their knees, the other person bends one leg outward, and their partner pushes down on that leg.
Sandwich. Similar to the praying mantis position, the sandwich is when the partner lying down bends both legs outward, while the other person pushes down on both legs.
Launch pad. The partner on their back squeezes their legs together and bends the knees up toward their chest, resting the heels on their partner’s chest.
Viennese oyster. The standing partner pushes the other person’s legs straight back toward their head, eventually touching their toes to the surface they are lying on. This position should only be done if the partner who is lying down is very flexible.
Myths About the Butterfly Sex Position
Myth: It’s only for heterosexual couples
The poses in the traditional Kama Sutra typically describe vaginal penetration by a male, but same-sex couples can also do many of the moves.
Myth: It’s uncomfortable for the receiving Partner
Because the butterfly position allows for deep penetration, some receiving partners may find this uncomfortable. But just because deep penetration is possible doesn’t mean it has to happen. The partner with the penis can take care to go slowly and be considerate of their partner’s comfort and pleasure. Good communication is key to making this position work.
How to Try the Butterfly Sex Position Safely
As with all aspects of sexual intercourse, communication between partners is essential. Make sure you both know what the position is and that you both feel comfortable. Limiting your expectations for what you want to achieve and focusing on pleasure and playfulness instead can help when you experiment.
Talking to your partner about trying the butterfly
If this is a new position for you and your partner, you’ll want to discuss how you’ll try it and where. If you’re interested in trying variations, plan to communicate clearly when you’ll switch up the position. You can keep in mind a few ideas for keeping this position both comfortable and pleasurable:
- You can use pillows or a cushion under the hips for a better angle and more leverage. This will also help avoid overexertion or strained muscles.
- If the butterfly is being performed from a kneeling position, a pillow can aid in elevation as well as comfort for the partner who’s on their knees.
- For the penis to hit the G-spot, the lying-down partner’s hips should be higher so the penis is thrusting in an upward motion.
- Keep adjusting the angles of penetration until you find one that works for you and your partner.
Possible risks
The butterfly sex position allows for deep penetration, so you should use caution.
Depending on the variation of the butterfly, the leg muscles can be strained or injured if not properly stretched beforehand. You should also use caution with the hips and pelvic muscles and ligaments.
Additionally, the upright partner must be cautious about applying too much weight when pushing down on their partner’s legs, especially in the anvil and Viennese oyster variations.
Takeaways
The butterfly is a sex position where the partner with a vagina lies on their back at the edge of the bed or other surface, and the partner with a penis stands or kneels in front and between the partner’s legs. The partner who is lying down can move their legs for comfort and stimulation. It’s a very easy and versatile sex position that can be comfortable for both partners.
Butterfly Sex Position FAQs
Is the butterfly sex position good for both partners?
Yes, the butterfly sex position can be enjoyable for both partners. It usually requires a lower level of effort and can enhance penetration.
Who should not try the butterfly sex position?
If you have hip or joint pain or sensitivity to penetration, the butterfly sex position may not be right for you, as it requires some joint flexibility and allows deep penetration.
Are leg raises good for sex?
Yes, leg raises can be good for sex. They focus on ab and pelvic strength, which helps with being able to hold certain movements during sex.
